There is no unmarked woman.

There is no woman’s hair style that can be called standard, that says nothing about her. The range of women’s hair styles is staggering, but a woman whose hair has no particular style is perceived as not caring about how she looks, which can disqualify her for many positions, and will subtly diminish her as a person in the eyes of some.

Women must choose between attractive shoes and comfortable shoes. When our group made an unexpected trek, the woman who wore flat, laced shoes arrived first. Last to arrive was the woman in spike heels, shoes in hand and a handful of men around her.

If a woman’s clothing is tight or revealing (in other words, sexy), it sends a message — an intended one of wanting to be attractive, but also a possibly unintended one of availability. If her clothes are not sexy, that too sends a message, lent meaning by the knowledge that they could have been. There are thousands of cosmetic products from which women can choose and myriad ways of applying them. Yet no makeup at all is anything but unmarked. Some men see it as a hostile refusal to please them.

Women can’t even fill out a form without telling stories about themselves. Most forms give four titles to choose from. “Mr.” carries no meaning other than that the respondent is male. But a woman who checks “Mrs.” or “Miss” communicates not only whether she has been married but also whether she has conservative tastes in forms of address — and probably other conservative values as well. Checking “Ms.” declines to let on about marriage (checking “Mr.” declines nothing since nothing was asked), but it also marks her as either liberated or rebellious, depending on the observer’s attitudes and assumptions.

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Lola (via Sharon Connolly)
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Benedict Cumbercat

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Benedict Cumbercat

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Oh no! @gmariethebee has a LOT to say!

Oh no! @gmariethebee has a LOT to say!

Gina taught me a more efficient way to take selfies! Also last time we hung out we were 15 which was NOT that long ago. We’re SO YOUNG.

Gina taught me a more efficient way to take selfies! Also last time we hung out we were 15 which was NOT that long ago. We’re SO YOUNG.

Why yes I DO drink a lot with my family.

Why yes I DO drink a lot with my family.

Whoa.. Twins….

Whoa.. Twins….

My dad just gave my mom his hoodie cuz she was chilly in the grocery store freezer section.
#truluv

My dad just gave my mom his hoodie cuz she was chilly in the grocery store freezer section.
#truluv

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Thoughtful and considerate houseguest.

Thoughtful and considerate houseguest.